|The Mori Lee dress she THOUGHT she wanted|
Have you seen all the bridal shows lately? Four Weddings? Bridezillas?? It’s overload, in my opinion. And it really pushes brides today into ideas (and budgets) that are out of their leagues. I watched a Say Yes to the Dress episode where the girl said her budget for the dress was $3000 (!) and the clerk shook her head saying she’d have a hard time finding many choices in that low range. That’s insane! Then we’d turn to a show about receptions and see that the family spent $40,000. Did you know that the average American wedding costs $25,000?? Shocking! How do real people do this? These shows make extravagance seem commonplace and to be expected. When I got married in 1987, I bought my dress on sale for $99 at JC Penney! While I knew we wouldn’t be recreating those days, there was just no way we’d be anything like the families in these shows.
Lest you think I’m only concerned about budgets and costs, today was only about dresses. Yes, we gave the clerk our price range – and no, she didn’t flinch or make tsk-ing noises. She even told me later that she was deliberately pointing Alyssa into directions of lovely dresses that stayed within my range. She thought it was really cruel when dress consultants show dresses that the bride cannot afford. I’m glad we were on the same page for that!
Today was Wedding Dress Quest – Day 2.
Initially, Alyssa loved this Vera Wang dress that Kate Hudson wore in Bride Wars. We thought she’d like the fitted bodice and then the flaring out at the hips. Unfortunately, when she tried something like it on, the dress was overwhelming. It was really difficult to move around in and Alyssa said she was drowning in it.
Then she moved to Mermaid Dresses and dresses with Keyhole backs.
But after trying on dresses at Alexia Gevali, we discovered we like the look of satin. Certainly, she liked the feel of it! From Mermaid, we moved to “Fit and Flare” and when we got to Belle Saison, we were back to more lace again.
While Alyssa introduced herself to the consultants at both stores, saying she liked Bling, she tended to actually move away from it when she tried bedazzled dresses on. Evidently, a wedding dress with a lot of bling tends to make people look at the dress, and not the bride. So we started to look at dresses without bling, but adding some bling on a belt. Or a little bling in the back or on the veil.
After a couple of hours of trying various styles, Alyssa narrowed it down to two. We grabbed different veil styles and Katie arranged and rearranged the trains. Everyone gave their opinions. We didn’t really think she’d make the decision that day, but she did! We agreed, it was an absolutely gorgeous choice!
We even did a little re-enactment from one of the shows:
“Is this Your Dress?”
“Yes. This is My Dress.”
Several people have asked if I got teary when .Alyssa come out in her wedding gown. It was a “Wow” moment with her stepping up on the pedestal, lights shining just enough to make everything spectacular, mirrors all around. And even though I seem to be on an emotional roller coaster these days, I didn’t really. I did, however, go back to the dressing room after she hung up the dress. It was just Alyssa and me and her wedding dress. I told her that she looked so happy in that dress and it was just beautiful on her. She looked at me with this look of…I don’t even know what… gratitude, happiness, love… and then, I did tear up a bit.
I’d love to share the photo, but we’re trying to keep it a bit of a surprise. Alyssa ended up choosing a combination of styles: A champagne satin with ivory lace overlay, very antique-looking. And just enough sparkle that will show up in the lights and not jump out at you with “Whoa! that’s bejeweled!”
So, there’s your introduction to bridal dress styles – probably more information than you wanted to have. But, hey, that’s what our lives look like these days! I’ll leave this blank spot here for after the wedding – then I can show you what the dress looks like 😉